In reflecting on your own power to create an effect around you, I have realized time and again that what you do creates an effect on others. The subtlest things, tone of voice, attitude, expressions, words, affect others. So does having integrity and setting a good example, even to those who seem to ignore you or not care. In the long run, you are leaving your footprint, your stamp, your mark for the future.


Today while waiting in line at a store. I saw this woman, who seemed cool but also a bit worried, introverted, etc. She was wondering if I was in line or not since I had strayed to the makeup section lol. I made a joke to her and she smiled. I didn't have to, but why not, isn't it better to be nice than

neutral? So I decided to communicate, as a lot of people are in their own cocoons lately and I have a feeling, as part of humanity, that we need to connect more, the old fashioned way. Now this doesn't mean I have to go around and befriend every person, but if it doesn't cost me anything to be nice why not?


So I recommended some of the makeup I had bought in the past and she decided to buy it and kind of lit up because someone was being nice to her. I realized she had a very pretty face and told her she should wear all that glitter during the holidays to highlight her beauty. She was even more glowing. I sensed in her face the weight of being overruled by society or whoever. And it was a kind of complicity of disagreeing with that and deciding to let herself be beautiful and amazing.


I know we shouldn't seek external validation or rely on it, but if we truly validate the good qualities we see in others, whether physical, mental or spiritual, I think we can bring calm to the environment and change our societies. And who knows... we could create a renaissance.


We should value all human beings for being there, for surviving, for moving forward, for building a home, a career, a business, for raising children, for helping animals, for helping others, in spite of everything... and the list goes on.... VALUE the good! It will multiply in front of you!


So I want to validate you for all the great things you have done and continue to do! Thank you for all you do to make this world go on and get better! I admire and appreciate you...!


Lots of love.


Brenda



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I have always thought and continue to think that you must be honest with yourself and follow what is your truth, your dreams, your happy place. It's hard not to care about what others think or say, but the only effective way is to continue in spite of it, because the only thing that matters is what you think of yourself. Of course, it is good to have a good reputation and so on, but that will come if you continue on your way even in difficult times. Always remembering, what will make my life a life well lived, which translates for me into how many living people and things I helped improve through my chosen path. How much mental and spiritual growth did I have? How big was I willing to play by my own standards? Sometimes we must stop and look before we continue the journey to make it a conscious one, a purposeful one. Again, by your own standards. You are the creator of your own goals, ideas, life, world views, decisions...please don't let others keep you from what makes you happy even if you fail and seem to be wrong. You're not wrong, you just have to take a moment and try again, do it again... maybe this time everything will line up. I decided a long time ago that failure is a made up idea that we bought into. But the truth is, you decide whether you call it failure or you just keep going and do better. You deserve to stay true to you and achieve your goals. If you don't succeed, just CONTINUE! Discipline will bring you great satisfaction and bring you closer to your DREAMS.


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A reflection on the contradictory ideas we have about life.


The other day as I was going about my day, taking care of business and my attention was on production, etc. I suddenly had the idea that life was actually easy. In fact, a very wise friend of mine once told me that life is actually easy if you think about it. And as I was in ACTION that day, literally moving, I feel that just being able to move and make things happen puts you above your own thinking on a very high level of understanding. And I was realizing how easy life was. It was a matter of repeating simple things that would produce a certain effect or a real product. It wasn't this ball of confusion that I can't do anything about. It wasn't a bunch of complicated things that I had to do, it was just the simple things that were necessary.



But why does it feel so hard sometimes? In fact, I've heard many times throughout my life how hard life is, in plays, in conversations, in podcasts, in popular sayings. So how hard is it? Because there are so many problems we face as individuals, as humanity, as part of a group, so it wouldn't make so much sense to think that life is easy at first glance.


We are a product of our thoughts


So, listen, I'm just sharing what my reality is. This may or may not make sense to you, but I still want to share something. Basically I believe that if you think life is difficult, it will be. If you think life is hard, it will be. So we have to be careful about what we consider life to be. It's a deliberative thought about how you construct your existence. You are building your life and shaping it with every thought, past or present. Life is a simple decision. There is also the fact that we have old decisions that still affect us, but you can always CREATE your life NOW! Every moment is an opportunity to start over, do it again, try again. It doesn't have to be hard. It can be simple. As simple as doing what you are doing right now. Enjoy the present. So that IDEA is very powerful. It starts with a thought, as light as it is powerful as a lightning bolt that changes everything instantly.



Now there's another factor. It is that I get what I wish for and maybe if I find myself too bored with life being too simple, isn't there a possibility that I might decide to make it more complex just to have fun and show how capable and competent I am to solve all these complications? So this is a very personal thing, and there is something super duper important I want to state. Something that I've learned over the years and also pointed out to me by another wise friend. It is that level of complexity, difficulty, etc. that I CAN HAVE that I must decide for myself. What can I handle? What do I want to make life more interesting? Because, indeed, life is a game and yes, we share the playing field or arena, but we also have our own game and can choose what level of complexity is fun and cool for us. It's a very personal decision. So don't let anyone tell you how much you can handle. Be your own judge and yes, be inspired by the greatness and action levels of others, but choose for yourself how much you want to do, how complex you want to make your existence or how complicated you want your game to be. Don't concede that decision to anyone else. You are in control of your own creation, and your greatest creation is your own LIFE! So, is it easy or hard?


I think the essence of life is EASINESS! If that's even a word. But we decide how we conduct ourselves and how much fun it is for us. Even when life is "complicated" it comes down to simple actions we must do! So enjoy each one, observe the moment, the people, the creation. You are after all creating your existence, so have fun and paint a great picture. And remember, in the face of complexity, is there a part that you are deciding on a thought level? Could it be a bit of your creativity to enliven your life? If so, then enjoy the thrill of juggling things and making all that mess come together, work, do every little thing until you achieve the big GOAL. ¡¡¡¡Maybe it's making phone calls to get your potential customers to say yes to your product, maybe it's looking your best and going on a date with a potential romantic partner, maybe it's doing all the steps of a recipe to surprise a loved one or a friend, but whatever it is persist in those simple steps, enjoy the energy and the excitement because that's LIFE!!!!


Feel free to leave me your thoughts or questions in the comments below, I love reading you and feel nurtured by all the comments! I hope it helps make life more and more FUN!



Love,


Brenda Marie


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